Wednesday, August 28, 2013

When We Doubt

But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. ~James 1:6 (NKJV)

Doubt. It can be paralyzing.

For a long time, I doubted myself as a writer until dear friend's words changed all that for me. Did it totally erase the doubt forever? No. Would those thoughts assault me later? Absolutely!

I'm excited to be a guest at a friend's site today!

Join me over at Susan Stilwell's for the rest of today's devo: 
When We Doubt.

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

The Joy of being Sisters

A man who has friends must himself be friendly,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24, NKJV)

The service came to the altar call as the congregation around us stood to their feet in reverence to the Lord. As the first note was sung, my "sisters" and I headed down to the altar for a time with one another and with God. We'd spent the weeekend in laughter and having fun. It was now time to re-afirm our faith and also our individual callings to the Lord and to our friendship. We prayed blessings over one another as well as for strength to face what lay ahead. Little did either of us know, the very next day one of us would need that strength and blessing poured back into us once again. And again, the others were there to give that hope and peace. Ladies, there's nothing like the joy of having a sister. A sister in the Lord is sometimes the only thing that keeps us standing. What are you facing today that only the joy of a sister can get you through? God designs us to have close relationships. Let that relationship begin with Him, but then let a sister come along side you to help carry the load.

Father, thank You for our sisters. Thank You especially Lord for these two women that have enriched my life over the last 3 days. I pray for each reader. If she doesn't yet have a sister she can call on, I ask You provide her with one. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Perfect Peace

You will keep him in perfect peace,
Whose mind is stayed on You,
Because he trusts in You. (Isaiah 26:3, NKJV)

My frustration was at a peak. The week was hard and long. My mind was anything but peaceful. And perfect peace? That wasn't anywhere to be found.

Until, that is, God spoke to my heart through a dear friend. Through Mary's words, she reminded me what perfect peace actually was.

Perfect peace at times means keeping harmony in a family.


Most of all, perfect peace means that we fully trust in the Lord. And as Mary reminded me, my trust had slipped into my own mind and away from God. My mind wasn't stayed on Him, so I couldn't get through the day without frustrations. Today ladies, what are you facing that you need God's perfect peace with? Let me encourage you, keep your mind on Him. And He will give you that perfect peace you long for.

Father, thank You for the peace only You give. Thank You Lord that when we get off course, You send friends and Your words to get us back on track. I pray for my readers today. I ask You to help her keep her mind on You.

***Do you know a pastor's wife or love one? My friend, Nan Jones is looking for inflencers to post reviews on Amazon. Her book, The Perels of a Pastor's Wife is now in the editing process. If interested, please email her at: Thanks!*** 

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Pain With a Purpose

We know that all things work together for good to those who love God, and are the called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28, NKJV)

Do you ever wonder if there'a really a purpose in your pain? Maybe today you're going through a divorce. Maybe you're going through the loss of a loved one. Maybe it's ahealth crisis. Or, maybe it's not even physical. Maybe it's spiritual or emotional. The fact is ladies, sometimes we just don't see why we're hgoing through the struggles in life. I pray that as you read the following words by my dear friend, Mary Denman, you'll find peace and comfort. This is from a precious lady who, over the last few months has been walking through some very painful circumstances. But, Mary hasn't lost hope.

I don't like pain.
Apparently, I wouldn't make a good Marine.
One of their mottos is: "Pain is just weakness leaving the body."
That's where they'd lose me.
More power to them. I appreciate the fact that they train hard to protect our country. Their pain has a purpose. But I couldn't join their ranks. (We won't even go into my age which would prevent me....)
But back to the point.
I don't like pain. But I've learned a lesson because I deal with it regularly.
Take my shoulder for example.
For several months, it hurt. I finally mentioned it to my doctor. She gave me cortisone shots. A couple of times.
It didn't help.
Then, I went to physical therapy. For a few months.
It didn't help.
Then, I went to a chiropractor. For a few months.
It helped other things, but not my shoulder.
I gave up and just figured I had to live with the pain.
A couple of years later, my hubby fell and hurt his shoulder. A month into it, he went to the doctor. She sent him to an orthopedic doctor. He ordered an MRI. My hubby had a torn rotator cuff. They scheduled surgery.
I asked, "What does your pain feel like?"
He described it. The lightbulb went on. I returned to my doctor. I saw an orthopedic doctor who ordered an MRI, and guess what?
Yep. I had a torn rotator cuff. And had lived with it for over 2 years at that point.
Hubby had surgery first. Two months later, so did I.
Then came rehab! It's a long recovery. But worth it when it works.
Unfortunately, my body didn't heal properly. A year ofter surgery, I was back in the doctor's office complaining of the same pain. I had another MRI. I still had a tear......No one's fault. Just bad shoulder genetics. I needed surgery, AGAIN!
This summer, I finally had the more extensive open rotator cuff surgery. I had put it off since January. The pain was just getting too much to ignore and it hampered my day to day living. (And driving our Miata!)
I've now dealt with 4 1/2 years of shoulder pain. My ortho assures me I'll feel great once rehab is over and the pain finally goes away. (He also fixed my bicep tendon which was about to snap. It was causing pain along with the torn rotator cuff.)
I'm choosing to trust him.
So what have I learned about myself and pain in this process?
First of all, I'm not the wimp I assumed I was. I've thought I'm a wimp because I feel pain. Now I know I'm strong because I keep going in spite of it.
Secondly, I learned you just can't ignore some pain. It's there for a reason. To tell you something is wrong. My shoulder didn't get better on it's own. I needed a surgeon.
Thirdly, I've had to trust the doctor that the pain I now feel is okay and that I have to press through it to get strong again. It still hurts like the pain of a torn rotator cuff. Except worse.
So how can I tell the difference?
Well, I had to have someone look inside of my shoulder and find the tear, the cause of my pain.
Only after that could we come up with a plan to deal with it.
After this surgery, you'd think I wouldn't trust my doctor. But I do trust him. He explained why it didn't work the first time and how he went about fixing it completely differently this time.
I push through the pain now. And I'm getting stronger, not weaker.
So how does this apply to life?
We all have pain. Either physical or emotional. We have hurts, sadness, losses.
Pain actually does serve a purpose. We need to be aware of it.
What's behind the pain?
Is it something broken that needs to be fixed?  Like a broken relationship. Unforgiveness.
Or is it a season of pain to make us stronger? Like exercising. Mourning.
How can you tell the difference?
This is where you need a surgeon.
And a heart MRI.
Go to God and ask Him to show you why you're in pain.
I'm in a season of mourning. It hurts. The pain of losing my mom will never go away. But understanding that I can either let it stop me from living or learning to go on and comfort others is a decision I have to make.
I'm learning to trust God to get me through.
God is the great Physician.
Ask Him for guidance.
Then listen for His answer.
The pain you're in may be for the purpose of strengthening you or teaching you to depend on Him.
He'll be there for you.
He has been for me....

Father, thank You for our pain. Lord, it's hard to pray that prayer at times, but as Mary wrote, there's always a purpose in what we go through. I pray for my readers today. I ask You to give them peace, assurance and comfort. In Jesus name, amen.

****If you're a pastor's wife or know and love one, would you consider being an influencer for my friend, Nan Jones's book? It's entitled, "If God be for Me: The Perrels of a Pastor's Wife
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Thursday, August 8, 2013

What a Friend We Have in Jesus

A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
(Proverbs 18:24, NKJV)

I have a dear friend by the name of Nan Jones. Our story of the way we started communicating was nothing more than a God-thing. I'd sent one email to her asking a question about writing. I really didn't expect a response from her because she was a writer and speaker. I thought she'd be too busy to answer an email from me, especially not knowing me. Sometimes, we think Jesus is that way. We think He's too busy for little 'ole me. This verse tells us that He sticks closer than any friend or brother. I know that Nan loves me and I know she encourages me, but at the same time, even she can't take the place of the sweet encouragement that the Lord gives. She loves me, but He loves me even more than she ever can no matter how hard she tried. Sweet sisters, if you're in search of a friend today, let me encourage you to run to the greatest friend you'll ever have!

Father, thank You for the friends you've blessed us with. More than that Lord, we thank You for the greatest friend, Jesus. Lord we love and praise You. Amen.

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

The I Am Not List

Today, I wanted to share something a little different with you. This was sent to me in an email several months ago when I was having a down day. I just felt that someone needed to read this list today. I pray this is a blessing to you as much as it was to me.

Then you will be a beautiful crown in the hand of the Lord, a royal crown in the hand of your God. You will no longer be called Deserted, and your land will no longer be called Destroyed. But you will be named My Delight, and your land will be named Married. Isaiah 62:3-4 GW

Those who know the Lord can sometimes struggle with the accusing and condemning thoughts of the Enemy. As the Accuser of the Brethren, Satan attempts to convince us, through his lies, that God is against us and we have been separated from God and abandoned by Him.

We must not give Satan any ground in our thinking. Each day, it is important for us to know the truth, believe the truth, and proclaim the truth. As God’s child, one who is accepted in the Beloved, here is a list of truths you can proclaim today!

Today, Because of Christ, I Am Not—

Forsaken—Hebrews 13:5
 Forgotten—Isaiah 49:15
 Abandoned—Hebrews 13:5
 Rejected—Ephesians 1:6
 Useless—Ephesians 2:10
 Helpless—Psalm 121:2
 Hopeless—Romans 15:13
 Hapless—Ephesians 1:3
 Homeless—John 14:1-3
 Condemned—Romans 8:1
 Confused—1 Corinthians 14:33
 Confounded—Psalm 22:5
 Doomed—1 Thessalonians 1:10
 Destroyed—Isaiah 43:1
 Desolate—John 15:5
 Deserted—John 14:18
 Uncared for—1 Peter 5:7
 Unprotected—Psalm 3:3
 Unwanted—Luke 19:10
 Unknown—Isaiah 43:1
 Unloved—Jeremiah 31:3

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Sweet Peace

and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Phillipians 4:7, NKJV)

Before I walked into the conference center, my nerves were on edge. This was my first time at the Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writers conference and I knew hardly anyone. Walking through the door however, I felt this tremendous sense of peace. It was as if my nervousness went away. I knew that could only be God's peace. I didn't understand it fully until the lady that helped get me there put her loving arms around me. Ladies, that peace is the greatest thing you could ever feel. What in your life today do you need to be covered in God's peace? Let me encourage you, pray and ask for it.

Father, thank You for the peace You bring. In the midst of what we may feel is unbearable, you bring a sweet calm. I ask that for each reader, You bring that calm to her spirit. In Jesus name, amen.